Families
Most everybody has one … and in most, at some time there is turmoil.
This is my year for turmoil. Did I ask for it? No. Do I want it? No. Yet, I have turmoil. The kind that feels like a tornado with hurricane force winds just rolled right over the top of you. Was there damage? Yes. Is it repairable? No. Am I sad? Yes. Is my heart broken? Definitely!
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I am an only child and both of my parents are deceased. Somehow this makes the pain hurt more - I guess because there is no one left to share it. Especially, since the turmoil is with my children. At the ripe age of fifty-eight, I have come to realize that children do not always like, much less, love their parents AND the feeling goes both ways. Am I proud of making that statement? No, but does it make it less true, no.
I am the mother of four grown and very different women which is probably the reason for the turmoil! They are never all pleased and satisfied at the same time. And strangely it is always my fault. Or at least I thought so until now. I have finally accepted that it is not my fault, nor theirs, either. It is human nature in today’s world to be kind to people you do not know and treat those you call “family” like CRAP!
Today I am taking a well deserved, long overdue VACATION - from family. Physically, I am not going anywhere, but I am not going to be available for a while. No phone calls. No visits. I will, after a time be available again, but not today, tomorrow, or the day after that … I will be selfish. I will do ONLY the things I want to do. I am re-grouping, taking stock of my priorities and finding out what makes me feel good about ME, without first thinking will this work for “the children”.
Frankly, my dear, I do not give a d***! Harsh words, you bet! Do I feel better just saying them out loud (in print)? You bet!
Have a happy week. I am! 
May 9th, 2008 at 11:46 am
Pamela, that stinks. I have a couple “family” members who are more worried about strangers as well. I’m glad you’re taking care of yourself anyway.